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Covenant & Conversation: Family Edition – Q&A


Below is a list of the selected questions which Rabbi Sacks has chosen to answer. Each of these recipients will receive an inscribed copy of the Koren Aviv Weekday Siddur. To read the weekly Covenant & Conversation: Family Edition, please click here.

Question from Sadie, aged 12 from Sydney, Australia: “My question for Rabbi Sacks is that if someone makes someone feel good only for money or for their own good and they never do any good that doesn’t benefit themselves is it still better then not doing any good?”

Rabbi Sacks responded: “Hi Sadie, The Talmud (Pesachim 8a) says that someone who gives money to charity in the belief that this will help cure his son who is ill, or make him worthy of life in the world to come, is “perfectly righteous,” even though he is doing it for reasons of self-interest. Why is this so? Because whatever his motive, he is actually doing good to the person who receives the gift – and that counts! Also because we believe that even though someone may do the right thing for the wrong reason, if he or she makes a habit of it, he will eventually come to do it for the right reason (Pesachim 3b). I hope this helps. Thank you for your lovely question! Blessings and best wishes.”

Question from Akiva, aged 12 from Bet Shemesh, Israel: “Rabbi Sacks, you started off by saying, “Mankind becomes wicked and this leads to God bringing a Flood and starting over”. If that’s the case and Hashem loves all his creations, then why did Hashem choose to destroy it? Is love conditional in the eyes of Hashem?”

Rabbi Sacks responded: “God loves us all, but He asks us to love, or at least not harm, the universe He created, and especially other humans, whom He created in His image and whom He also loves. So, out of love for humanity, He sometimes punishes those who harm humanity – and that was true of everyone except Noah and his family in the generation of the Flood. Not even God can love those who harm those He loves. I hope this helps. Thank you for your excellent question! Blessings and best wishes.”

Question from Channi Goldin, aged 15 from London, UK: “What was the point of the world before Adam and Chava were taken out of Gan Eden? Because God created the world so that humans have free choice to choose whether to do right and wrong and to then gain internal pleasure in the next world (Olam Haba). But if in Gan Eden everything was given to them what was the point of it?”

Rabbi Sacks responded: “When we are very young, our parents give us all we need. They protect us. They watch over us. That is because we are too young to do these things for ourselves. But our parents also want us to grow up, and learn to do things for ourselves. Which is why they give us a certain measure of freedom, so that we will learn and grow and accept responsibility and eventually become adults like them. They do this, even though they know we will sometimes make mistakes – because we can’t really learn without making mistakes, and we can’t really grow without the freedom to make mistakes. Gan Eden was like childhood, and Adam and Chava were like children. But Hashem did not want them to stay children forever, so he gave them freedom. And yes, they made mistakes, and that meant that they lost their home in Gan Eden. That is what it is to grow up. But we believe that Hashem has still left us some back doors that open onto Gan Eden. One is called Shabbat. Another is called love. Another is called marriage. So we don’t have to wait for Olam Haba to find Gan Eden. But we do have to lose it, in order to grow up enough to learn how to find it again. I hope this helps. Thank you for a really good question! Blessings and best wishes.”


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